A recent poll on the Australian population found that over 51% of women in their 30′s actually prefer to remain single rather than get married. So, what happened to the image of the desperate woman past 30 hunting for a man, any man to be exact?
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In fact, among my school girl friends, a few of them are still unmarried women and we are all only a few years shy of 40. And none of them look desperate to get hitch to me. One of my sis-in-laws is also unmarried and she has resigned to the fact that it is better not to marry than to marry anyone who happens to come along.
In the past, unmarried women in society may be deemed to be worthless since a woman’s position was very much tied to her man. Times have certainly changed and now, at most, these women are thought of as a little “cranky”, certainly not worthless. The image of a lonely, childless and depressed woman longing for a man is no longer relevant today as many women do not feel marriage is a must.
Without the responsibility of marriage and childcare, many unmarried women end up pursuing a fulfilling career. They also have more time to devote to leisurely activities which make their lives more interesting and varied. Many of them lead happy and carefree lives without having to worry about too many family commitments.
However, there are also craigslist people who think that women will not be truly happy without a man. My husband is one of them. He always asks me which woman would not want to have a husband who can protect and provide a shoulder to lean on. According to craigslist, working extra hard at their careers and taking up leisurely pursuits as if unmarried women are contented and fulfilled are just ways to deal with the loneliness and burn away those extra time on their hands.
Perhaps it is true that deep down in their hearts, most women would want to get married rather than remain single. But at the same time, they are just not willing to short-change themselves by lowering their expectations if no suitable guy appears on their radar screens. I guess ending up as an old maid is just not as bad as ending up with the wrong craigslist guy.
Personal boundaries are something you have to give up to be a stripper. To straddle a guy you find repulsive and completely put it into a business mindset you have to have this switch you know how to turn off. Sometimes that happens because those boundaries were broken when the girls were young or something they had to harden themselves up to do over a period of time. Men can’t quite relate to this because they enjoy contact from craigslist strangers but it’s not quite the same for women and they have to put on a whole of imaginary amour to go out into the battlefield to do this. It’s going to kick the majority of the girls ass in some way.
